Initial Steps to Get Your Ex Back
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If you came here to find out how to get your ex boyfriend back, it is extremely important that you decide on a solid plan right now. Before you are tempted to make a bad move by instinct, and blow your chances in the process. (You will be tempted, no doubt about it, and the ice cream will be the least of your problems).
In life, usually it is good to do what your instincts tell you to do. Your "gut feeling" is right most of the time, and if you follow it, you will be all right.
However, this does not apply to breakup situations! This is the one time where your instincts are totally WRONG. Believe me, if you want to get your guy back, you will have to act completely different from what your heart tells you to do.
So stop what you are doing for a moment. Try to control your emotions, and take a few minutes out of your time to read what I have to say.
Start with avoiding the mistakes you are tempted to make in your misguided attempts in getting back your ex!
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I have defined three essential steps that any girl should follow if she wants to get her ex boyfriend back.
Of course every breakup situation is different. You may feel like your situation is so different, that the "common rules" don't apply to you.
However, if you have decided that you want your ex boyfriend back, I strongly advise you to keep these essential steps in mind, no matter what your situation is!
Initial Steps For Winning Your Boyfriend Back
INITIAL PHASE :Step #1. Be StrongStep #2. Find Out What HappenedStep #3. Limit ContactStep #4. ChangeStep #5. Look Past himADVANCED PHASE :Step# 6-20. Start Employing the Dirty Tactics |
INITIAL PHASE:
The first rule is the simplest and the most difficult at the same time:
Step One: Be strong!
However heartbroken you feel, trust me, your ex boyfriend is not going to want you back if you show him that you are miserable and/or needy.
You probably have the urge to let him know just how terrible you feel, and how much you miss him, so that he will feel.. ehm... Feel what? Pity..?
A guy doesn't fall for a girl out of pity, ever! You'd be amazed though, how many women try to use this "tactic" to get an ex boyfriend back. Please don't be one of them! To get your ex boyfriend back, you will have to be confident and strong! Girls, I can not stress this enough.
By now you may be thinking "OK, easy for you to say, but I just feel terrible! How can I act confident when I feel as rotten as I do?"
Well of course acting confident can be difficult right now, because after a breakup your self esteem may hit a low point.
I am convinced that in most cases, if you want it hard enough, you can get your ex boyfriend back! You just have to be strong and smart about it!
You only need the right information on what you should do and should not do. So let's continue.
Step Two: Find Out What Happened
Find out what drove him away and change it. He won’t come knocking if the problem is still around.
If you know that something you did led him to break up with you, let him know you realized the problem and that you are going to change it, without asking him to come back.
Step Three: Limit Contact
One area where you need to be very strict with yourself, is contact. Whatever you do, don't harass your ex. This will definitely drive him away from you.
Instinctively you want to call him, because you want things to get back to how they were between you two.
And to get back together, you first need to make contact, right? Right..?
Wrong! Please, in your heart you already know this.. Don't call him! After a guy breaks up with you, he will regard your repeated phone calls as "stalking" or "harassing" way sooner than you think!
And even more important: Since you are giving him confirmation that you still think about him, he will not feel any pain of missing you. This is definitely not helping to get him back! So whatever you do, don't call him (unless you have your plan to win him back all laid out, more about that later).
You got to give him some time to think about everything. He needs to realize that he misses you and he wants you back. Make him come to you. This will show if he is really dedicated.
Step Four: Change
Change your haircut, your wardrobe and your standards.
Make him think that he held you back from your full potential, all the time. Not only will this evoke guilt on his side, but it will also become a challenge to prove you wrong.
Step Five: Look Past Him
There is nothing that will drive him as nuts as you ignoring him. Don’t be rude about it, just make sure you never have time to speak to him. This will go further than you think in making him think twice about the decision he made in dumping you. Even in the year 2010, guys still look at the fairer sex as a "possession". By not acknowledging him, you are psychologically tellling him "You don't own me any more".
During this time, hang out with all your friends, both girlfriends and platonic male friends. Make an effort to smile. Don't overdo it or he will suspect it's just a show. There's nothing more ego-crushing for a guy than showing him that dumping you did not make you stay home to cry your eyes out and give up on having fun altogether.
ADVANCED PHASE:
Step Six - Twenty: Start Employing the Dirty Tactics
Now that you have your first five steps in place, it's time to start deploying the dirty psychological tactics to get your boyfriend to come pleading and begging for your love again, promising never to break up with you again and that he will stay with you and love you forever.
I wish I had come up with these dirty psychological tactics myself, but the truth is I haven't. I have to credit these ingenious tricks to Matt Huston, who has set up a web site devoted to these little known but deadly tricks. Click here to continue reading....